Questions: The Key to a Quality Life Mike Lindstrom June 8, 2004 This strategy focuses on your ability to ask powerful questions in your life. It can be set forth that the quality of your lifestyle is directly proportionate to the type of questions that you ask in life. Have you ever met somebody that just seemed so darn happy all the time-almost to the point that it drove you crazy? People like this have conditioned their mind to focus on the positive aspects of life. No matter what challenges they may face, they always seem to have the ability to turn it around and make it a positive. This is no accident. This type of person has learned to ask the right question at the right time. It is important to always remember, “If you ask a bad question, you will get a bad answer.” Let’s face it-our brain’s are our worst and best friends all in one skull. Your brain does NOT lie to you! If you ask the question, “Why was I so stupid?” Your brain answers back, “Because you are stupid.” This is a playful reminder that the mind does not lie to you. If you know this is true, why would you not ask better questions of yourself? The reason-no one has taught you how to ask a great question or you have allowed yourself to slip into old patterns causing you to focus on disempowering questions/answers. Let us do a real life illustration of how questions affect our emotional states and ultimately our behavior: About three years ago, I had a very close friend that was 25 years old. He was a well-liked successful law student living on the beach in San Diego, CA. Everything he ever went after, he achieved. Less than one year away from achieving his number one life goal of becoming an attorney, he was struck with an unforeseen brain aneurysm and died immediately. After hearing the shockingly sad news, I immediately began to ask bad questions-questions like “Why him? How could this happen to somebody so young? Why would God take him right now? Etc.” These questions are very real and common when one experiences death in life. The challenge here is that these questions warrant negative answers, and affected my behavior and how I was responding to other people. I caught myself asking these natural questions and then I changed my focus to the positive, empowering questions. Questions like, “What is positive about this situation? What did I learn from him that I will share with others? How can I support his friends and family in times like this?” As tough as it sounds to ask great questions in such a negative time, it truly helped me through the situation and made me stronger as a result. In this success strategy, we have included a sample of great questions to ask yourself on a daily basis. For maximum success, asking these daily as part of a ritual prove to be very enlightening and empowering at the same time. 1. What MUST I believe about my mind and body in order for me be my best right now? 2. What am I happy about right now? 3. Who loves me right now? 4. Who is looking at me as a role model right now and how must I show up in life in order to inspire them to the fullest? 5. What is great about today? 6. If I were going to live a vibrant, healthy, full life, what would I do right now? Or today? 7. Whose opinion matters most to me? Why do I care about their opinion? 8. What must I focus on right now in order to be positive and happy? 9. What is my deepest purpose for living here on Earth? 10. If I absolutely knew beyond all doubt that I was the most confident person in the world, how would I walk everyday? Talk? Breath? Eat? Introduce myself to people? Smile? 11. What must I believe, to maintain positivity, about other people when they tell me negative things? 12. Who controls my destiny? 13. What is it going to take for me to maintain a positive belief system all the time? How far out of the box am I willing to push myself to be the person that I want to be? 14. What is it going to cost me, if I do NOT answer these questions all the time and do NOT focus on positive belief systems?? 15. What am I most proud of right now in my life?

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